Verbal compliments are far greater motivators than nagging words.
– Dr. Gary Chapman
State of Mind
“The problem is that when you or I start to feel frightened or scared or threatened, we get into a state of mind where we can no longer think properly and we operate by memory. Totally. 100%. Memory.”
– Stan Tatkin
Apology vs Acknowledgment
Validating your spouse
A great video about how to validate your spouse by Jayson Gaddis.
A formula for a happy marriage
I’m sometimes asked for the formula for a happy marriage. There are some founded in research and science and many more anecdotal and subjective. Either way it’s nice to hear from those that have actually had the experience of a long term relationship (average of 44 years), maybe we can all learn something from them.
In a recent study at Cornell University, gerontologist Karl Pillemer surveyed 700 people married for 40,000 years, yes 40,000 years !! The outcome was a list of recommendations derived from the collective wisdom of the participants with the average age of 77.
By the way the couple married the longest were 98 and 101 and had been married 76 years !!
